Leaders

Happy Documentary by Roko Belic

  • Everyone wants the American dream
  • Children/Family are the most precious gifts- being grateful
  • Happiness helps you reach other goals
  • Those with less know true happiness
  • “Genetic set-point”
  • 10% circumstance contributes to your happiness
  • Intentional behavior- not adapting to habitual subconscious behavior
  • Change is important
  • Stillness, simplicity, and nature all add to happiness “good medicine”
  • Dopamine- neurotransmitter (loose the older you get)
  • Seek out experiences like physical activity- aerobic exercise
  • Live your life in tranquility
  • “In the Zone” like playing the piano allows you to feel in control because you know what is coming next and you forget selfish mannerisms
  • “Flow” –forgetting ego-centric feelings and that life is worth living
  • Good and Bad events = be able to recover from adversity due to growing learning experiences
  • “People do really good when things go really bad”
  • “I don’t understand, I don’t need to understand, and that’s okay”
  • You have a choice to be happy
  • There is no such thing as pleasure without pain!
  • Less technology = more content (ex. Tiny House)

 

 

Connected, but alone? by Sherry Turkle

  • “Getting that text is like getting a hug”
  • 1996 1stted talk
  • Exploring different aspects of ourselves
  • Virtual world— identity of ourselves
  • I believe that we are letting us take us places that we don’t want to go
  • Not engaging with the self
  • Mobile communications- plugged in
  • Little devices are so psychologically powerful- not only change what we do, it changes who we are
  • Odd or disturbing—now are familiar and normal
  • Important skill of eye contact while texting
  • Children complain about not having their parent’s full attention.
  • Being together while not being together
  • Texting at funerals— remove ourselves from our grief
  • We are setting ourselves up for trouble in how we relate to ourselves and others and capacity for self-reflection
  • People want to customize their life—control over where people put their attention
  • End up hiding from each other even as we are constantly connected to each other
  • Doesn’t want to interrupt their colleagues because they are too busy on their emails.
  • People don’t want to be interrupted
  • Goldilocks effect
  • What’s wrong with having a conversation – it takes place in real time and won’t let you control the way
  • We get to edit, and we get to delete
  • Not too little, not too nice, just right
  • We clean them up
  • We sacrifice conversation with communication
  • Profound question—don’t all those little tweets, add up to one big gulp of little conversations?
  • Don’t work for learning about each other- to learn how to have conversations with ourselves
  • Compromise our capacity for conversation
  • I would rather text than talk
  • No one is listening to me— so many automatic listeners
  • Makes us want to spend time with machines
  • Trying to make sense of her life with a machine that had no experience
  • Vulnerable—experience pretend empathy as if it is the real thing
  • It doesn’t face death, it doesn’t know life— I found it one of the most wrenching complicated moments in her life
  • We expect more from technology, and less from each other
  • Technology appeals to us most where we are most vulnerable—we are afraid of intimacy
  • We are not so comfortable and not in control= changing minds and hearts
  • We will never have to be alone- central to changing our psyches
  • Being alone feels like a problem that needs to be solved
  • I share therefore I am
  • If we don’t have connection, we don’t feel like ourselves
  • Solitude is where you find yourself and reach out to other people
  • Using them as spare parts
  • Always being connected is going to make us feel less alone—opposite—if we are not able to be alone, we are going to be lonely
  • Reclaim spaces for conversation
  • Don’t have time to talk about the things that matter- we all need to really listen to each other
  • When we stumble or hesitate, we reveal ourselves to each other.
  • Recognize our vulnerability- listen when technology says it can take something complicated and simplify it/ hopeful/ optimistic
  • Real lives, own bodies, our own planet